“A Real Go-Getter! A BusyBee! She burns the candle at both ends! Give her a job and you KNOW it will get done well!”
Cliches, yes, but labels and comments that have been a real part of the self image of most of us Baby Boomers. We work hard, take on big assignments and live as large as possible.
“Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country,” was the USA President’s challenging edict that we bought into wholeheartedly…back in the day.
We were part of the Feminist Movement, the Freedom Movement, the Jesus Movement, the Civil Rights Movement, Student Exchange Program or the Peace Corps. We wanted to change the world and still do!
But today, right now, as these lofty thoughts present themselves in my sleepy head, I close my eyes, snuggle in a little deeper into my comfy arm chair and nap.
When Did I Start Needing a Nap Everyday?
I have a vibrant old friend in Oregon who has reminded me at times that much of what we do, we do because we can.
If I have a kitchen drawer filled with chocolate bars, I eat chocolate bars. If I have a car and a valid drivers license, I drive to the shops instead of walk. If I have free time after lunch everyday and the house is quiet, the comfy chair is empty and the afghan nearby, I nap.
When I took the bold step of leaving my career and the daily routine of my job, I suddenly had free time after lunch, the house was quiet, the comfy chair was empty, the afghan nearby, and I became a daily napper!
And probably so did you. We nap because we can…and it is very delicious…though just a little guilt-producing.
Let it go or Protect it?
Apparently an afternoon nap is healthy for us. Health professionals, like the National Sleep Foundation, recommend a regular afternoon nap to restore energy and aid heart health.
Many successful people, such as Eleanor Roosevelt, Albert Einstein, John F. Kennedy, who made great contributions to their communities and to the world at large were nappers. Perhaps there’s a relationship between success and rest.
What does it take to have my nap everyday yet still feel useful?
When we were younger and probably not napping everyday, we were led by our passion. We heard the call of our president or our personal hero or shero, and we followed…with all our hearts. Some of us left everything to follow. We defied the wisdom of our mothers. We left school or our home town. We bought one-way bus tickets. We didn’t ask for a lot of questions to be answered. We expected good results and never counted the cost.
Today, we are older, but we can still be led by our passion…we just have to work around our afternoon nap time.
Physically, age slows us down a bit. We probably can’t DO as much as we once did. Now we must choose more carefully and focus on our strongest passion. Contribute smarter!
Daily commitment to being our real, authentic selves, nap and all, adds honesty to the world. We acknowledge our limits and honor them. We contribute by being kind to ourselves and this gives others permission to do likewise.
Remember when we thought being busy equaled being important, being significant? Remember how we proved that wrong!?! Eventually busyness breeds contempt, or at least, burnout.
Positive contribution isn’t about how much we DO. Positive contribution is about BEING the unique person you are. You contribute by being alive, learning and giving.
Each of us has a lifetime of experiences that have gone into making us who we are. As we continue to honor the unique understandings and talents we gained from our own experiences, we find ways to pass them on to those around us, just by being who we are and doing what sparks our passion.
Four Tips for the Napper Who Still Wants to Make a Contribution to the World:
- Lean into your passion. Whatever brings you the most joy, give yourself to it, even if its a minimum amount of time compared to earlier years.
- Live at your own pace. Changing the beat of each day is one of the perks of this stage of life. No one is measuring your production, or keeping a time-card on you!
- Redefine napping as a positive. An afternoon nap is good self-care and helps revitalize our energy level. It helps you BE your best.
- Embrace this ‘retirement’ stage of life as the Being-stage and live out these years as the unique You that you are.
Enjoy that nap! It will only make you better!
“Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.” ―Deepak Chopra
How do you see your contribution at this stage of life?